November 1, 2010

Another Tragic Loss

Dear Mom,

Today Tom’s friend lost his mom in a car accident when she swerved to avoid hitting an animal. If there was ever a day I felt lucky to have been given a fair warning that you would pass away, today is that day. I can’t imagine what it feels like to wake up to that news, completely blindsided. All day I couldn’t stop picturing what he might be doing at that moment to try to cope or how helpless his girlfriend feels knowing there’s nothing she can say to lessen his heartache. Everything I have felt for the past three years is exactly what he is just beginning to feel today. Life is so unfair.

Why is it that murderers can live to be 100 years old in jail wasting our tax dollars, yet we lose the people who just want to be around to continue loving their children and the ones who can’t even bear to run over a porcupine? I know God enjoys the company of precious angels like you, but can you nonchalantly mention in conversation that it’s making life a little bit difficult down here for the rest of us?

I'll never understand why some of us have to say goodbye to our mothers when our lives are practically just beginning... but what I do know is that... I really, really miss you today.



  1. Sami, I am so sorry about this new tragic loss. It's normal to ask those "why" questions, but there are no good answers. I felt somewhat lucky, too, since I had months to say goodbye to my mom while she was ill. Still, I wasn't there when she died and that continues to feel like something I missed out on. Anyway, I am sorry. Regards, nancyspoint

  2. Samatha, I feel your sorrow sweetie. Unfortunately, a loss such as this is a sure-fire way to have our own wounds opened.
    I believe your Mom is with you always and feels your distress.
    'When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.' ~Kahlil Gibran

  3. Thank you both for your continued support xo